There is a bestseller title with The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. And interestingly, Alex Wills published a counter with title "Give a F*ck Actually” to share how could you reclaim yourself without hiding yourself.
It’s interesting paper debate between authors, at least this is the first time I’ve seen such kind of “collabs”. LOL.
Let’s skip the part of the first book because the review is already written here. If we focus onto this topic now, there are some few more interesting perspectives that we can extend here.
Ignoring the facts doesn’t make yourself better, worst case it might mentally burden yourself. It looks like you’re “ignoring” the issue, but actually it made you stress even you didn’t admit. So at some situation, you would have to face the issue, and make a decision, so that you can move forward.
2. To express yourself
If you are telling yourself “it’s okie, I prefer not to argue”, then you are actually ignoring yourself. Most of us simply take it and being afraid of express and rejects, ironically, the relationship won’t get better even you are always being an “okie” person, things get worst because you are always increasing your thresholds until… no one will respect your preferences anymore. So be active to yourself, your preferences. You are always allow to express yourself and decide your own directions.
3. To improve yourself
When you started to stay alert, you will also started to self reflects to get better version of yourself or lifestyle. You started to seek for a solution whenever you noticed an issue instead of ignoring it. And slowly you will be growing to actively improving in different perspective or environment.
It’s interesting paper debate between authors, at least this is the first time I’ve seen such kind of “collabs”. LOL.
Let’s skip the part of the first book because the review is already written here. If we focus onto this topic now, there are some few more interesting perspectives that we can extend here.
Why Should You Give a F*ck?
1. To admit the issue and do the necessaryIgnoring the facts doesn’t make yourself better, worst case it might mentally burden yourself. It looks like you’re “ignoring” the issue, but actually it made you stress even you didn’t admit. So at some situation, you would have to face the issue, and make a decision, so that you can move forward.
2. To express yourself
If you are telling yourself “it’s okie, I prefer not to argue”, then you are actually ignoring yourself. Most of us simply take it and being afraid of express and rejects, ironically, the relationship won’t get better even you are always being an “okie” person, things get worst because you are always increasing your thresholds until… no one will respect your preferences anymore. So be active to yourself, your preferences. You are always allow to express yourself and decide your own directions.
3. To improve yourself
When you started to stay alert, you will also started to self reflects to get better version of yourself or lifestyle. You started to seek for a solution whenever you noticed an issue instead of ignoring it. And slowly you will be growing to actively improving in different perspective or environment.
Reading Reference
This is the reading how this article started, if you are interested to seek for the author's sharing, feel free to have a read. A 144 pages reading, it should be able to help you to get started and clear your mist.Valuable quotes from the readings
- emotiaphobia: the irrational fear of emotions.
- Acceptance allows us to move forward even when we can’t forgive, even when the other party won’t change their behavior.